Sometimes it can be hard to identify when your friend is the cause of all your anxiety and low self-esteem. It’s something that WF reader ambassador Bec Tippett can relate to. In this week’s blog, Bec shares her tips on how to end a toxic friendship and start looking out for the most important person – you.

“This is a subject I can relate to and am familiar with. I’m a person who is particularly sensitive to situations and environments. I’ve learnt that it’s super important to not only surround myself with people that leave me feeling super satisfied, positive and motivated after spending time around them, but I’ve also learnt how to deal with negative people.

There are certain instances where it can be impossible to let go of negative people in everyday situations, for example; a work colleague, friends of friends, social settings, etc. The choice is taken away from you and instead of withdrawing from the situation, you have to learn how to deal with the negativity and not let it affect you.

Toxic people can make you question your self worth, ideas and ability to achieve your goals and aspirations. They know exactly what makes you tick, what your weaknesses are and how to bring you down to their level. They are experts. Your job is to firstly realise what they are doing, secondly remove yourself (if you can) from being around them and thirdly learn how to repair yourself.

Always remember:

Do not participate in any bitchiness or talking ill of people

Try not to participate in any negative talk about people. Sometimes you can easily do it without realising depending on what mood you’re in or from fear of being left out of a conversation. This may seem harmless at the time but will only lead to leaving you feeling guilty and questioning your self worth.

Separate yourself from those who don’t uplift you

Trust your gut instinct here. You should be aware of those who will support you compared to those who will take a thrill in seeing you fail. There’s no need to tell anyone your reasons for no longer spending time with them. If they don’t help you be the best version of yourself, let them go and don’t look back.

Improve yourself and your good relationships

Continue to be the best version of yourself, improve your positivity on a daily basis and cherish all of the good relationships you hold. Always help someone if you feel they are being negative and trust that they will do this for you in return.”

Read Bec’s last blog here.